@Macilious Chris - you're spot on with that Sandy reference! From Seaside Park all the way up to Sandy Hook, everything retained 100% of value +! (BTW - Epic meeting you that day in Avon! That got me super stoked, such a small world!!!)
OP @mightyrime - Check out St Augustine FL if you're willing to leave CA, we just settled here. I spent 18 months doing exactly what you're doing with a massive spreadsheet tracking all the pros and cons, social/financial/misc. We spent time up and down the coast of CA meeting with realtors from Mill Valley area all the way down to La Jolla, and out east from Portland ME suburbs all the way down to Palm Beach county. After meeting with probably upwards of 50 realtors and nearly 2 years of searching we found the spot and it's perfect. Good weather, good waves, good people, good schools (best in FL, fair compared to New England standards), good value. Win-Win.
And you have a governor that is kicking ass. I love St. A....it is on our radar as well.